You Must Heal Before Moving Forward

You will never have peace in a new relationship until you find peace within your own life.

Healing takes time after a divorce or long-term relationship. Going into a new relationship before you have fully overcome your fears will only bring new problems, and more broken hearts.

When you’re in a bad place, every little detail will be a problem in your new relationship, even when it’s irrelevant. The status of any relationship is based off of where you’re currently at emotionally. If there are fears, anxiety, and resistance because of a past relationship than you are not ready for a new one.

It isn’t fair to the new partner to absorb your pain because they had nothing to do with your past. Your pain will then become their pain because you afflict it upon them. This may open a pandora’s box that may be difficult to come out of.

With this said, you must heal first before moving forward. If you have grudges, resentment, insecurities, fears, resistance, depression, sadness, or anything linked to a past relationship than you are not ready. A new relationship will not work out or will have problems if you are carrying this load of emotional baggage with you.

It takes courage to face your fears, and it takes even more courage to face them head on by yourself. It is the most liberating and freeing feeling when you release the emotional baggage.

On a side not, it is normal to be a little nervous about a new relationship, but only if it’s not coming from an old relationship. Happiness starts with you first.